Aaron “Quill” Barnes

I believe ceremony and ritual are some of the best ways we make meaning from change.

I’m an inclusive, creative celebrant with a particular love for ceremonies that are deeply personal, a little unconventional, and genuinely reflective of the people at their heart. I work with people of all faiths and none, and I’m equally comfortable creating something spiritual, secular, Pagan, Christian, interfaith, Queer, traditional, wildly unconventional – or somewhere beautifully in between.

My approach is collaborative rather than prescriptive. I’ll spend time getting to know you, listening to what matters, asking questions, throwing ideas around with you, and helping you create a ceremony that actually feels like yours. I’m very happy working with symbolism, storytelling, ritual, music, poetry, humour, participation, sacred space and old traditions; but I never believe something belongs in a ceremony merely because “that’s how it’s usually done.”

Alongside weddings, handfastings, vow renewals, funerals and naming ceremonies, I have a particular interest in rites of passage that our culture does not always know how to mark: name and gender transitions, separations and divorces, menarche/menopause, retirement, initiation, moving home, changes in family or community, pet/animal funerals and memorials, and other significant thresholds in a person’s life.

My background includes celebrancy training through the School of Celebrancy, the Order of Bards, Ovates and Druids (OBOD), as well as lay ministry in the UMC and British Methodist Church, while also being raised in a partly Ashkenazi family. This works alongside two decades of experience in interfaith chaplaincy, spiritual care, and equality, diversity and inclusion consultancy. These strands all inform my celebrancy: listening carefully, making room for difference, and creating ceremonies in which people can recognise themselves and their stories.

If something important is happening in your life and you find yourself thinking, “There really ought to be a ceremony for this,” please get in touch. Because you’re not wrong!

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